Wants vs Needs (to be a Cuckold)
This blog post is about wants vs needs.
Received a call recently from a brand-new customer. Well, would have been customer. He had a great chipper hello so I had high hopes that it would be a great call. Unfortunately, the hello wasn’t reflected in the substance of the call. While I consider myself a great cuckold therapist/explorer and fantasist, I do consider myself a bit of a cuckolding expert but you have to cooperate.
After a few sentences of hello, where are you calling from etc…I asked what’s on your mind? His response was, “I need to be cuckolded“. Now, those of you who know me, know that I am sapio-sexual and do not use base speech. I consider it an obligation and integral part of my job as a phone sex operator on NiteFlirt to get inside of your head.
WHY WOULD YOU ‘NEED’ TO BE CUCKOLDED?
I need to know what’s going on with you emotionally and mentally before I can do that. Once I do that, I can hit all the important parts of your mind and stimulate both that and your cock. After I asked this question, he hung up without saying a word. What a disappointment for us both! There is a big difference between needs and wants. He said, he NEEDED to be cuckolded and I wondered, why?
HAVE A SENSE OF HUMOR WHEN YOU CALL PHONE SEX, IT MAKES THINGS FUNNER!
Is funner a word? LOL I dunno! But it’s appropriate for this. All he had to do was say, with a smile, OK, well I don’t NEED TO BE CUCKOLDED, I want to be! I, in-turn, would have smiled and said, now we’re onto something. Conversely, if he truly NEEDED to be a cuckold, he could have explained that his mind, body and soul craved the loss of power or pressure he feels. It’s your time and money and YOUR thoughts and fantasies. If you can’t share them with a woman who advertises for it, who then?
And he would have ended up with a great call. Instead of ‘going with it’ or having some personality, the question seemed to stump him. Why would someone ‘need’ to be a cuckold? That’s a personal issue.
CUCKOLDING PLAY IS CHANGING THE POWER DYNAMICS IN BED
This caller could have said a number of things to explain his ‘need’ to be cuckolded. He is probably tired of playing or being the Domme in bed. Maybe, he’s even tired of in-charge all of the time at work and at home and needs, really NEEDS the dynamic to change in bed. With is partner, he may have awesome communication and intimacy, but she doesn’t understand he needs to be relieved of all of that power.
During the Covid19 lock downs we all needed an escape! According to PornHub, they saw an increase in the search term ‘cuckold’ by %168 in 2021. But, what my disappointed caller may have not been able to articulate was the he wanted to explore his sexuality with another man.
Either way, he lost at the opportunity to speak with Mistress Candace about any of this by not just going with it, having a sense of humor or not understanding that I am here to make what you’ve been in the dark blinking pixels of your mind, better, deeper and more arousing by exploring it.
Candace
Ref: Men’s Health
