Jan 11. 2022

Mistress Phone Sex with Candace on NiteFlirt.

This morning I received a call that prompted me to write this post.  Commercial phone sex lines have one thing that we all love about them.  They are anonymous.  You, as the customer, sit there in the privacy of your own home or office or car or park and dial a stranger and we talk about your intimate fetishes or fantasies, sometimes you even share personal stories with me, just connect to chit chat or confess to me. I love it! It’s secret pleasure isnt it?

I don’t know you, really.  You don’t know me, really.

This privacy and anonymity are the best things about calling NiteFlirt Phone Sex.  We can be and do and feel as much secret fun and intimate things as we want and sometimes, even make a great connection with someone who feels like a friend.  I think of myself as a confidant more than a phone sex operator.

WHAT NOT TO DO OR SAY WHEN CALLING PHONE SEX

How to avoid being your own worst enemy

The reason for this post is to describe how a man/caller to my Cuckolding Phone Sex line can be his own worst enemy.  The first step to avoid screwing up is to read the listing ad fully.  You don’t go to the hardware store looking for milk.  Don’t come to me expecting a Pro-Dom.  I advertise myself as the ‘girl next door’ on purpose.

Starting off a call to a seasoned and smart phone sex operator by stating that you are “looking for someone long-term” is a big NO NO.  The reason?  Because we all know that’s bullshit.  It makes you look manipulative or that you don’t “get” the commercial aspect of phone sex.  It’s basically setting up the flirt with your manipulative attempt to make her think your call is more important than ‘all the others’.  It may also signal a narcissist.

This morning’s fella started off that way, which immediately had me rolling my eyes.  Unfortunately, for him, I suspect he doesn’t have much success when calling NiteFlirt because he also stated he wanted to touch base and find out if we had “chemistry”.  That was the key for me in knowing that this call would be difficult.  It is perfectly acceptable to want chemistry, but to weigh this in advance means his expectations were greater than I or anyone could meet.

I AM LOOKING FOR SOMEONE TO CONTROL ME, TO MAKE ME SUBMIT FOR REAL.

UGH, calling a phone sex line like mine on NiteFlirt and asking this of me is like building a brick wall and asking me to tear it down.  It is a phone service that connects people from all over the world.  The first thing anyone who calls phone sex should do is ACCEPT WHAT IT IS.  It is an entertainment service, not a dating site, not a site to hook-up with Pro-Dommes, because after all if someone is a Pro-Domme, she wouldn’t need to do phone sex.  Also, don’t put expectations beyond the online communication by asking me to ‘force’ you to do anything.  I can’t.  It’s a phone and I don’t possess magical skills, yet.

The second thing you should NOT DO WHEN CALLING PHONE SEX OPERATORS is to expect she is going to delve into your private life, spend her time (time is money) caring about your sexual perversions-interests off the call.  This guy was just a cock sucker fag who wanted a woman to blame his desires on.  I found this out after he asked, ‘do you have any tools to make me do this?”  My answer was, “you don’t need to be forced, you just said you want to suck a cock“.  His reply, you’re right.   Then why the games?

DO NOT DO THIS WHEN CALLING NITEFLIRT CUCKOLDING PHONE SEX

1. Describe your interests in lame ass menu terms. eg: I like FEMINIZATION, HUMILIATION, BBC, CUCKOLDING, FORCED-BI etc…All that does is list your interests which I assume you have since you are calling me and I advertise those.
2. DO NOT expect the operator to care about your off-site or off the call time.
3. DO NOT EXPECT to meet me or any PSO in person.  95% of us don’t do that.
4. DO NOT use general third person descriptors when descripting your roleplays. I am quite adept at roleplaying thus I want to know, who we are, is it your wife, gf or me?  Are you the other person?  This mornings’ guy kept using 3rd and 4th person references and I couldn’t make sense of it.
5. Lastly speak WITH DIRECT NOUNS AND USE THE FIRST-PERSON narrative.

It is imperative that you speak with confidence and clarity.  If you have issues doing this, and I prompt you to clarify your interests, it is to help you.  It’s your sexual interest, not mine.

Be sure who you are calling and make sure that she is the right woman.  I am a FemDom but not professional dominatrix.  I have my past and I share that with my callers, but until then I am not advertising this.  Don’t’ expect it.

After all, when you hang up, there is likely someone else waiting in the wings for me.

This is my feminization line but it’s not needed to call it.

Do you know what the numbers underneath my picture mean?
We get 2 points for every fifteen minutes of talk time.