FemDom vs. BDSM (NiteFlirt FemDom)

Sep 3, 2022

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Finally, summer is coming to a close and I couldn’t be happier about that!  After my first caller this morning on NiteFlirt, I thought I’d speak a bit about the difference between FemDom and BDSM.

THERE IS A BIG DIFFERENCE BETWEEN BDSM AND BEING A FEMALE DOMINANT (on the phone.)

I know many of you think being a PSO is a difficult job.  It can be.  Mostly, it’s alright and I enjoy it.  But there are those customers who, after speaking with them even for a few minutes you know have a difficult life.  Their personalities or immaturity and/or lack of critical thinking capabilities make life difficult for them.  They will always have a difficult time finding a satisfactory call and probably think it’s us, not him even though he’s the only constant.

This morning was one of those times.

My outgoing greeting on NiteFlirt says, “Sapiosexual Phone Sex” which means that the only thing that really excites me about my calls is a man whose intelligence shines through.  I can get a hard cock anywhere at any time but finding a man whose personality is as strong as his cock? Well, that makes me happy and satisfied.

This morning the fella says he ‘liked my greeting and that I said, I was the girl next door who is a FemDom’.  His first failure was fully understanding the context.  He began by saying I could “tie him and come back in the morning”.  HUH?

Asking for clarification, I asked, So, you’re into bondage?  His answer was, balls, neck, hands anything!

OK, so since I neither advertise as a BDSM “Bondage, Discipline, Sadism, and Masochism PSO nor that I enjoy it.  I have to ask HIM what and why he likes or find some reason for him to open up and enjoy speaking about the thing HE BROUGHT UP!  So, I ask, “What sort of experience do you have in it”?

Him: A lot.

Well, “I was hoping to hear you tell me your story, when was the last time you were in bondage or the best experience or one that you’ve yet to have”.  His response?

“I am paying you; I want you to tell me a story about bondage”

Me: I don’t advertise about BDSM…I have no experience in it..,you do.

Him: But you said, FemDom.  End of call.

BDSM AND BEING A FEMDOM ARE NOT THE SAME

Yes, some FemDom’s who do in-person sessions participate in flogging, bondage, nipple clamps and other types of pain or discipline but on the phone and when someone advertises, she’s the girl next door, there is a huge difference between the leather and latex clad PROFESSIONAL DOMINATRIX AND A PHONE SEX OPERATOR WHO IS THE GIRL NEXT DOOR.

I consider myself a DOMINANT PERSONALITY, but a woman also believes women are superior human beings to men.  I like men, we need men and I respect many men on the planet who provide us with the hard work and strength only some men can offer. But, I am not into pain, inflicting physical pain nor do I put up with dumb, ill-mannered and men who deny they are inferior.

WE can talk about BDSM.  I am open-minded and realize some people enjoy pain.

WE can even play some BDSM activities while on our calls, but don’t misread my information that I have painstakingly written to attract just the right customers to my business.  Otherwise, just like in Washington from 2015 to 2020 the one thing missing is CRITICAL THINKING.